Description: FREE SHIPPING UK WIDE Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist by Margalis Fjelstad People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators; Caretakers fall for them every time. This book helps Caretakers break the cycle and puts them on a new path of personal freedom, discovery, and self-awareness, through the use of real stories and practical suggestions from a seasoned therapist. FORMAT Paperback LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling—in the extreme. Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch. These negative behaviors dont happen once in a while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member.Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This compromises the Caretakers self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist. The book looks at the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretakers how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle—with or without the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic, yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of these relationships, and gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions. Author Biography Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, LMFT, has a private psychotherapy practice in Ft. Collins, CO, specializing in work with clients who are in relationship to someone who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, and she facilitates groups on Caretaker recovery. She has previously been an Adjunct Faculty member at Regis University in Colorado Springs and at California State University in Sacramento. Table of Contents PART I: UNDERSTANDING THE CARETAKER ROLEINTRODUCTION: HOW CAN I TELL IF IM A CARETAKER?1: IS MY PARTNER REALLY A BORDERLINE OR NARCISSIST?2: WHY THE BORDERLINE/NARCISSIST NEEDS A CARETAKER3: LEARNING TO BE A CARETAKER4: CARETAKING INVOLVEMENT LEVELS5: EMOTIONAL DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS6: THOUGHT DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS7: BEHAVIORAL DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS8: DISTORTIONS IN THE SENSE OF SELF9: RELATIONSHIP DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERSPART II: LETTING GO OF CARETAKINGINTRODUCTION: HOW DO I MAKE CHANGES?10: STAGES OF HEALING11: CHALLENGING THE BP/NP FAMILY RULES12: BEGINNING TO HEAL: EMBRACING NEW BELIEFS AND BEHAVIORS13: INCREASING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE14: NURTURING AND CARING FOR YOURSELF15: ANXIETY REDUCING SKILLS WITH THE BP/NP16: CHANGE CREATING SKILLS WITH THE BP/NP17: LEAVING OR STAYINGPART III – REBUILDINGINTRODUCTION: HOW DOES IT LOOK TO NOT BE A CARETAKER?18: MOVING FORWARD IN A HEALTHY WAY19: REACHING OUT TO OTHERS20: THE NEW YOUAPPENDIX I: CARETAKER TESTBIBLIOGRAPHY Review I thoroughly enjoyed reading Fjelstad´s book and I found it informative, exciting, and above all very well written. Fjelstad is truly honest and frank about the fact that the borderline and narcissist are mentally ill and unwilling to change. She is open about the fact that caretakers too get something from the situation and that it is up to them to break the cycle of caretaking since the BP or NP is not going to change their ways. Fjelstads advice is well thought out and practical which makes them easier to follow and she provides the reader with specific ideas and examples to how the caretaker can make the changes needed to rid themselves of the power that the BP or NP has over them. . . . [T]he book is excellent material for anyone that is living with or has any involvement with a BP or a NP, close or distant, since the book fosters understanding of the disorders and the need of the caretaker. The book can be of great use to psychology student, especially those in clinical psychology or those focusing on personality disorders. * Metapsychology Online *Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist is refreshingly no-nonsense, provides lots of useful hints on how to put this self-care model into practice while at the same time informing thoroughly and in no uncertain terms about the BP/NPs view of the world. It is a most helpful book! * Addiction / Sucht / Adicción * Long Description People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling-in the extreme. Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch. These negative behaviors dont happen once in a while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member. Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This compromises the Caretakers self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist. The book looks at the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretakers how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle-with or without the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic, yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of these relationships, and gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions. Review Quote I thoroughly enjoyed reading Fjelstad Details ISBN1442238321 Author Margalis Fjelstad Publisher Rowman & Littlefield Year 2014 ISBN-10 1442238321 ISBN-13 9781442238329 Format Paperback Place of Publication Lanham, MD Country of Publication United States DEWEY 616.8585 Birth 1945 Short Title STOP CARETAKING THE BORDERLINE Language English Media Book Subtitle How to End the Drama and Get On with Life Pages 232 Imprint Rowman & Littlefield AU Release Date 2014-08-14 NZ Release Date 2014-08-14 US Release Date 2014-08-14 Publication Date 2014-08-14 UK Release Date 2014-08-14 Illustrations Illustrations, unspecified; Black & White Illustrations Audience General We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! 30 DAY RETURN POLICY No questions asked, 30 day returns! 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ISBN-13: 9781442238329
Book Title: Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist
Subject Area: Clinical Psychology
Item Height: 229mm
Item Width: 152mm
Author: Margalis Fjelstad
Publication Name: Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Subject: Psychology
Publication Year: 2014
Type: Textbook
Number of Pages: 232 Pages
